Updated: 8/6/20 | August 6th, 2020
Kristin Addis from Be My travel Muse writes our regular column on solo female travel. It’s an essential topic I can’t adequately cover, so I brought in an expert to share her guidance for other women travelers to help cover the topics essential and particular to them! This week, Kristin covers why there will always be reasons not to travel and how there will never be a ideal time to go!
Life is short — we have limited time to do the things that we really want to do. It’s also a voyage — or a sack of coins that are yours alone to spend. (Those are my metaphors for life, anyway.) and it’s expected to be fun.
For a lot of people, that implies not waiting until retirement to travel but rather getting out there and exploring now.
If you want to travel now, but you’re frightened to go it alone, you’ll be able to find excuses everywhere if you look for them. You’ll find ways to say you can’t do it best now: you’re not ready; your job, friends, or fears are holding you back; you have too numerous obligations.
These excuses imply you’ll never get on the road.
Because at every stage of your life, you’ll be able to find a reason why it can’t work for you. It will never be the best time to travel — especially as a woman.
The truth is, the ideal time to travel will likely never come. You just need to make the most of the time you have and take the plunge.
To help you find the courage to take that first step, here are 6 questions you’ve likely heard — and answers you can use to support your desire to travel the world as a solo female traveler.
1. Aren’t you going to work out down?
A common question I get from people back home issues when I’m going to “settle down.” Don’t I want a relationship and a family of my own? My question back to them is: Why is traveling and having a family mutually exclusive in this day and age?
Families travel all the time — some even full-time. These days, it’s entirely possible.
Of course, I have had to make choices and there are sister lives that I didn’t live because I chose to travel. I won’t know what could have been with the handsome Frenchie, because I didn’t choose to stop being a travel writer and relocation in with him. It might have been nice, and, naturally, I can’t ever be sure that I made the best call, but I do know that sitting on the beach in Tanzania, writing this to you, is one of the happiest moments of my life.
I have these moments all the time because adventuring is what gives me life.
I used to think that if I wanted a relationship I’d have to give up this life of traveling. but because something in me always whispered, “Go” — and I always left.
It hurt me to my core, but I had to. because Mr. best will only have one thing to say to me, and that’s “May I join you?”
2. Shouldn’t women stay home and follow social norms?
We women don’t have it easy. We are expected to be smart, collected, beautiful, graceful, strong, and slightly independent, but still docile enough to be loved and cared for by a partner. We are expected to chase opportunities — but only the ones handed down to us by the status quo.
What I always find interesting, though, is that the women in history who are heralded are the ones who did the opposite of all of that.
Think of Harriet Tubman, Joan of Arc, Susan B. Anthony, Rosa Parks, Amelia Earhart, and an unlimited list of other women who are pretty much widely loved and respected for doing the exact opposite of what society expected of them. We praise them for their bravery, and for having the kind of foresight and ability to question the system that made them into heroes later.
Now, traveling the world won’t make you a hero to the world, but what about to yourself?
3. Won’t you stand apart as a target for criminals abroad?
In the week before I started traveling on my own, an short article came out about two girls who died in Vietnam, supposedly due to poisoned alcohol.
Everyone was sending this short article to me, telling me to “be careful” — ignoring that a deadly film theater shooting had just taken place in Colorado, much closer to home than Vietnam.
I went anyway, and I’ve stayed safe through over eight years of solo traveling. Sure, there are travel scams to be aware of. but the world isn’t as scary as it’s so typically portrayed.
Traveling safely isn’t rocket science. Do what you do at home to stay safe, follow a few essential safety tips, and choose places that are terrific for solo female travelers.
Start there, get your feet wet, and branch out as you acquire experience and confidence.
4. how will you afford it?
I used to think that I needed to retire before I could travel full-time, and even then, I’d need to be pretty rich. For my week’s worth of paid time off, I was easily spending $2,000 USD in Mexico or Hawaii, trying to do it all and come back with photos of me having a blast on the beach with an expensive cocktail inmijn hand.
What I didn’t realize back then was that my money would have been worth two or three times as much had I strayed a bit farther away from home. Southeast Asia, India, and much of central America can be dirt cheap, especially if you’re prepared to do it on a shoestring.
Staying in hostels, eating and traveling like locals, and moving much more slowly are all terrific ways to save money and turn that week of PTO into a sabbatical instead.
Even if you’re earning minimum wage, having trouble figuring out how to travel cheaply, or just think you’re too poor to travel, if you’re sitting at a computer reading this best now with a passport that lets you go to other places in this world, you have the ability to make it happen financially.
Change your mindset, and the rest will follow.
5. Won’t your family freak out?
The toughest part of traveling solo is typically the pushback from our parents. We wonder how we can get them see it from our point of view and support us.
The much more essential issue is what you’ll regret later. will you wish that you’d stayed at home to please your parents, who — because they unquestionably love you — do want you to live a pleased and fulfilled life?
Even if they don’t necessarily understand or support everything we do, our parents want the best for us. That’s what having a child is — understanding that you’re creating a human who will have her own brain, and eventually be an adult who is self-sufficient.
It’s your life, not theirs. letting other people make monumental decisions for you is a terrific way to go down the path of regrets.
6. Why don’t you wait for someone to join you?
I understand not wanting to travel alone. I didn’t want to do it either, until I chose that I really just had to travel the world and it had to happen prior to turning 65.
I knew my pals couldn’t do it with me — they had jobs they didn’t want to leave. So did just about everyone else I could think of.
Sometimes, the dream to travel will be yours alone, and that implies you have to do it by yourself if you’re going to do it at all.
I was pretty concerned about being lonely, but when people asked about that a few weeks into my trip, I laughed that I had ever had that fear. I was meeting other people constantly. It doesn’t matter if you’re shy; someone will probably start a conversation with you, especially if you stay in a social hostel.
Once you get out there, you’ll see what I mean. It’s all about just taking that first step.
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Every problem seems insurmountable at first, but there are ways to get around those obstacles that keep you from traveling. The essential is to look for the services and break them down into manageable pieces rather than trying to tackle the entire thing at once.
Save up, break the news to your parents, do your research so that you (and they) will be less worried, and let everyone else’s opinion stay with them.
It’s your bag of coins, and your life. get out there and spend it how you want to!
Kristin Addis is a solo female travel expert who inspires women to travel the world in an authentic and adventurous way. A former investment banker who sold all of her valuables and left California in 2012, Kristin has solo traveled the world for over eight years, covering every continent (except for Antarctica, but it’s on her list). There’s practically nothing she won’t try and practically nowhere she won’t explore. You can find much more of her musings at Be My travel Muse or on Instagram and Facebook.
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